These new helpers make the code a lot cleaner. I confirmed that the
simple helpers like `atomic.Int64` don't add any extra overhead as they
get inlined by the compiler. `atomic.Pointer` adds an extra method call
as it no longer gets inlined, but we aren't using these on the hot path
so it is probably okay.
* add configurable punching delay because of race-condition-y conntracks
* add changelog
* fix tests
* only do one punch per query
* Coalesce punchy config
* It is not is not set
* Add tests
Co-authored-by: Nate Brown <nbrown.us@gmail.com>
